Hurt I am so sorry that happened. I've been separated from my wife for going on 9 months now but we still live in the same house (sleep in different rooms). I prayed every night that we would things but it just never happened. As far as I know that wasn't ever any adultery involved, but we lost our connection and unfortinately divorce seems like the only answer.

Adultery made the big ten for a reason. God intended for marriage to be a covenant made before God, blesed by God, for the glory of God.

The flesh is weak. And, this is one of those cases where the sinners are just as likely to call themselves Christians as not.

I have one other suggestion to add to those given: Share your marriage with "accountability partners". In this fast moving world, it helps to keep company with other married men or women, as the respective case may be, so that you can support one another when you are away from your spouse. At 64 (happily married 30 years) I almost appoint myself to watch out for the younger guys that I travel with, and I talk about their wives and families a lot (while talking incessently about my own). Folks, we have to look out for one another.

Grant, that is wonderful advice and so needed in todays world. We really do need to look out for the younger ones. It is our responsibility! Satan is so cunning and out to destroy the young so the rest of their lives is wasted on regret and guilt.

Thank you. I have had some Christian mentors in my life, so I know of what I speak. We often focus our efforts on bringing people to Christ, and that's great, but upholding one another just as important. Age has a few advantages. Experience is one.

Wow this is a deep subject. I know what having an affair is all about. Been there done that. Even in knowing that it is wrong, for me it seemed so right. But like with every choice there are consequences. The thing was that we both were, I knew about him, two could play that game but for me that game turned into real love.
You have to be careful when you go into a marriage. Make sure it's for all the right reasons not based on feelings because feelings can change but a pure heart that loves unconditionally does not change. The red flags will pop up, warning signs will fly up, don't ignore them. Check your heart out, look at the person, look at the relationship, and be honest with yourself first, if there is any doubt or hesitation, do not go there.
I can say that I asked GOD to forgive me and the person too because you know you have your conflicts. But I got beyond that and the cheating, forgave myself, forgave them, was forgiven and i moved on. My life is 100% better now because I am not in a strained marriage, no longer slleping with the enemy, no longer feeling that I did not exist. I was better than that and I was ready to get it all together, not just for me but for my son as well. All I can say is,"GOD Saved Me from what could have been OUR Destruction!And I am Grateful. No anger, no bitterness. Things did not have to go as far as they did if he had manned up when I first ask the question. I was willing to depart as friends but no, he wanted both worlds, I was not the ONE to give it to him. Thank GOd for deliverance. The Joy of the LORD is my strength...I made it through. Hallelujah!

I received this daily devotion this morning from a Pastor unexpectedly.I was in such a situation last night and prayed this morning for God to save me from temptation. Thanks be to God for rescuing me once again.
He loves me a lot and answered my prayer within an hour. Now I'm relieved and safe. He loves all of us.
I think we need to fear of God sometimes, when we try to turn away from his word. Because we were once redeemed and saved and we ought to sustain our redemption until Jesus’ coming.
We all know that Jesus’ 2nd coming is not to die again on the cross but to judge us.
2 Peter 2/20-22 reads:
20-For if after they have escaped the pollutions of the world through the knowledge of the Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ, they are again entangled therein, and overcome, the latter end is worse with them than the beginning.
21-For it had been better for them not to have known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered unto them.
22-.....the dog turns to his own vomit again; and the sow that was washed to her wallowing in the mire.

I'm not sure that I completely understand all that you are saying "By Chance", but one thing seems clear to me. You are forgiven. I am reminded of the story of Jesus and the adulterous woman who was brought before him for judgement, and presumably punishment by stoning, "...now go and sin no more". You are free (wonderfully free) of your sin; you have a new start; be sure to keep Him close to you everyday. Good luck!

too late for me. my husband had more than one affair and while it's been 3 years since the last, I find myself unable to let go, trust God and feel safe. I felt safe the last time and got broken all over again.